Onward Leaders Blog: Cohort 2
I have been reflecting seriously about how many of us get so lost in our servant leadership. I certainly forget it isn’t about me often. How can they not see how much I give- I wail into the night (usually at my poor husband). Rage, rage against the- whatever has offended my self-righteousness that day.
But what havoc we unleash on communities when we do this. Being a principal is a lot like being a parent. Like parents who use their children to compensate for their own unrealized dreams, principals can, too, use their communities to do this. And it is never good. And it is not the job of the community to fill the empty spaces in you, just as a parent should not use children to fill those spaces. There will always be a dreary and dismal and disappointing ending when this happens.
I am in my third year of studying, not what makes a leader- but what makes an effective Catholic elementary leader. From my perch, the first ingredient is humility. Grab a chunk of it before taking the lead at a Catholic elementary school. Even if you want to be the answer, you are just a sliver of it and you are only that if you do it well. Doing it well means not making it about you.
I am as important or as unimportant as those who went before me or stand with me in this moment. I am not unique. I am not the answer. I am simply doing my part to keep the road open for children to know Christ. I am not the conduit of that relationship. I can only journey humbly along with the families. If that isn’t enough, probably not the job for you.
“As long as you are proud you cannot know God. A proud man is always looking down on thing and people: and, of course, as long as you are looking down you cannot see something that is above you.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity